Are Your Doubting Your Own Decision?
Have you ever experience you have made a decision but not sure if you really want it? Or you are afraid that you chose the wrong one?
If yes, then you need to go back to your decision and ask yourself these two clarifying questions.
1. If I really want [Your Decision], what am I willing to sacrifice?
2. Five years from now, will I regret [Your Decision]?
Future Star in The Making
When I was a teenager, I wanted to be an actor. Yes, you read it right. The one you see on TV and in the movies. I imagine myself with the fans shouting my name and wanted a photo of me. (Crazy, right). But I was unsure if I can make it. Then I ask myself, “Do I really want to be an actor?”
Am I willing to work late night filming movies?
No. I am a morning person.
Am I willing to expose my life to others?
No. I am a private person.
Am I willing to sacrifice my current life to pursue my dream of being an actor?
No. I won’t sacrifice.
Answering these questions made me realized that I don’t really want to be an actor. I just want the fame and attention. I don’t want the hard work.
There is always a Trade-Off
Everyone wants success in life. But not everyone is willing to pay the price.
Everyone wants the reward, but not everyone can take the repercussions.
Asking ourselves what do we want is not enough.
We must also ask ourselves,
“What are we willing to sacrifice?”
To have something, you must give up something.
To Re-Sign or Not To Resign, That is the Question
I have a friend who was confused if he will stay on his current high paying job but he hates or go for his dream job but pays a lower income.
He asks for my advice, so I ask him.
“Five years from now, will you regret leaving your current job?”
He says, “No.”
I asked him a follow-up question.
“Five years from now, will you regret not going from your dream job?”
He says, “Yes.”
A few weeks later, he filed his resignation and grab his dream job.
Now, not only that he is working for his dream job, he got promoted and even surpassed the income he got from his previous job.
Future Pacing
If you doubt yourself if you made the right decision, then ask yourself
“Five Years from now, will you regret doing this?”
This is a good example of future pacing. A technique used by NLP Practitioners in helping their clients visualize their future.
Sometimes, we are too focused on our current needs that we forget the good things that are laid ahead of us.
We focus on what we will lose instead of focusing on what we will gain.
By asking this question, it will help you make clear your head from the loop of uncertainty.
Final Thoughts
Hope these two questions will help you find clarity in your present and future goals.
Though saying yes to an idea, means you are saying no to a thousand ideas (even the good ones) you don’t have to worry. Or make the #FOMO syndrome bothers you.
Knowing what you really want is halfway to where you want to go.
Having clarity on what path to take will help you make better decisions along the way.
Only you can make it for yourself.
Cheers to your success!
